"Good Black Man" is just code for" Nice Guy" ,Don't Get Played!

Screen capped from a thread full of misogyny towards Black females.

Does this argument sound familiar?

I think some Black men feel, like the White men, entitled to women's bodies because of the good deeds they do.

As a retaliation for getting "fucked over" by getting rejected, used ,or mistreated by other Black women, the entire race of women gets thrown under the bus. 

The problem with their reaction to female rejection as opposed to the White male's reaction is that, we can't afford to throw one another under the bus as a race, let alone the entire female population of Black women, who are supposed to be the lowest of the low in the racial ladder.

What do Black Men Get From Sexism?

I've tried explaining this to some "brothas" (who says that anymore anyway?) online, that Black men can benefit from patriarchy ,too. It's not just a White thing. Sure it's a White-designed thing, but Whites can call for their foot-soldiers at any time. I just never understood what Black men got out of exercising sexism towards Black women besides a brief moment to bathe in some form of white-male supremacy. It seems to me many brothas would love to be equal on terms of everything with White men, even the ability to own and control their women.


Black men as a whole may feel like they have nothing in terms of power. So what better way to exert authority and power through sexism than to attack the lowest of the low-Black women? Nobody cares about Black women anyway. How many Black prostitutes are reported dead on television in comparison to how many White prostitutes?  How many missing White girl photos have you seen and how many "missing Black girl" news reports have you seen?  My point is, is that there are no penalties attached to hurting Black women emotionally,physically,and spiritually. Never has been.



Until racsim ends though, Black misogynist men are supporting White men's racist efforts to debase Black women with each song that comes along, each video uploaded on Youtube, each article written about what's wrong with "us", each objectifying cat-call on the streets, each camera-phone recorded up-skirt that's then sent into digital space (the internet). They confirm that Black women aren't worth two dead flies smashed together, and White supremacists nod and agree. The Black misogynist male thinks he's just expressing misogyny, but what he is really expressing is racist misogyny. Who's the solution? Surely not that misogynist Black male.

What  Black men get in exercising in misogyny are only the crumbs of the White supremacy pie. A pie they've been craving for, for some years. Some will even step on us to get a crumb, you can imagine what they would do to Black women if White men decide to give them a slice. If they'll hurt us for a fantasy, they'll kill us for a reality.

Don't support Black Male Misogyny. It's damaging for the Black community as a whole and re-affirms White racist views of Black people.

Questioning Feminism, In Regards to Race

You know, when others accuse me of being a Feminist, I am not insulted. As a young girl, I always felt this way. Sure I indulged in frilly femme things as a child, (and even a little now , in heavy moderation) but after getting out of that phase I took notice of how females were treated in society. Of course, like every other girl, I was immediately reminded of my class from the age of seven or so; some 7th graders from the other side of the campus went around harassing young children-and one decided it was ok to lift my skirt up, and then ask other boys to join along in doing such. Such uneventful encounters occured throughout most of my adolescent years. But before that, I always did ask default,textbook feminist questions to myself ,such as  "Why are girls pink and why are guys blue? I like blue!" or "Why is it that guys don't get their pants pulled down in public by girls'? I didn't know how to define what it was I felt until  I came across some Naomi Wolf articles on some CD my mom gave me for educational purpose. Sure I knew "of" feminism , but I didn't see the point of aligning myself with feminism since most of the feminism I saw being practiced was "Sex Positive" things.


I as a Black woman, must have seen something I couldn't describe or identify before,again. I continue to ask myself "Does Feminism Have Room For Black Women?" . Often I see feminist websites that are fairly poplular get flustered and angry when Black feminists (or non feminists,or "womanists" -cool word by the way) call White feminists out on their privilege. They often say "It's about women, addressing racism is a distraction.". This got me thinking..should Black women abandon the label Feminist? It seems like it's the same old thing again. Everytime we're feeling (or hell we ARE) excluded,we make our own brand of something. Whites were plastered everywhere on the television set, and then came in BET (I know I know, BET Sucks and it's blacksploitation all over again. Work with me!) to try to smooth things out, a little.


Much like patriarchy benifits the Black man very little-could Feminism for Black women do the same? I'm not the brightest star in the sky, so I'll try to explain this to the best of my abilities.

IF...

• Whites are the default race...

• Then the default race for Feminists are White women...

• So if White Women are fighting for White women's needs

• Where does that leave the Black women?

This is why I question Feminism.



For the record, I am not attacking Feminist women-I am simply stating my opinions . I have a high regard for rad fem views and feminism as a whole. I'd like to be proud to be called a Feminist, but I'd also appreciate it if I had a home waiting for me at the end of the freedom rainbow.